Love

Posted by: Life Skills Sankar

Source: behappy.org.in

Love a positive emotion and is the part of human character. This commonly required emotion has given highest priority by the youth. Those know their responsibilities will not bother about affairs. Even acci-dentally involved, will not neglect responsibilities. Now a days, youth feeling that love is a separate professional course and doing it by keeping aside the studies and responsibilities.

Now Read the love story of Dimpa and Vebh.

Dimpa and Vebh are classmates and now they are in II/IV B.Tech. Vebh pro-posed to Dimp but she has not responded.

Vebh                : How many days I have to wait?

Dimpa             : What for?

Vebh               : Don’t test my patience.

Dimpa             : Cool Saroja, one week back, I have prepared to said ok, but on the same day, I have

                          attended a personality development class.

Vebh              :  Ok! What happened?

Dimpa           : One psychologist has come and spoken on love and asked three questions.

Vebh               : Which Questions? Quickly tell me.

Dimpa             :  First you shall have patience to listen and analyze.

Vebh               :  Ok! Ok!

Dimpa             : First one; ‘When to love’?

Vebh               : No, meaning, we have watched number of movies, in those movies

                          even the primary school children fell in love. We are already at 20.

Dimpa             : Please think, Psychologist has told that, even though there is a love

                         proposal, we should not involve seriously until getting a job. I feel it 

                         is quite reasonable.

Vebh               : No…. No…. Ok….Ok.

Dimpa             : I have one doubt.

Vebh               : Tell

Dimpa             : If your parents do not accept, what you will do?

Vebh               : Simple, we can run away from the parents.

Dimpa             : I don’t accept.               

Vebh               : Why !?!

Dimpa             : My parents have sacrificed their lives for me. Though our financial  condition is not

                         good, they have  paid fee etc; and expecting better future for me. I can't cheat them.    

Vebh               : My parents also good?

Dimpa             : In such a case, is it humane to desert them in the name of love? You

                         may do the same in my case also, for your personal interests.

Vebh               : No, believe me.

Dimpa             : That is not the matter.

Vebh               : Ok, Ok, tell me the psychologist’s second question.

Dimpa             : Nice, ‘what for the love is’?

Vebh               : Silly Question.

Dimpa             : I am serious.

Vebh               : Cool, Cool.

Dimpa             : Psychologist told ‘love is for better half‘.

Vebh               : Of course.

Dimpa             : Clear one thing, when we become made for each other?

Vebh               : By understanding each other and with adjustment. 

Dimpa             : How?

Vebh               : You don’t know? I have already understood.

Dimpa             : What?

Vebh               : Yes, we together have seen many movies, swallowed number of ice

                          creams, eaten pizzas, etc.

Dimpa             : You are a fool, that is not the meaning of understanding each other .

Vebh               :  What else!             

Dimpa             : We should share our feelings and emotions.

Vebh                :  What is the use?

Dimpa              : For example, if both of us have high degree of anger, how will be our  

                            family life? Within few months we get separate. Even habits are not 

                             matched it become difficult for us to live together.

Vebh                 :  I agree.

Dimpa              :  So, I would like to take some more time to accept your proposal, we can \                           understand each other.

Vebh                 :  Oh! I can’t wait, Ok, tell me third question.

Dimpa               :  How to love each other’?

Vebh                  : It is too much. Love is blind, it is spontaneous, and there are no methods.

Dimpa               :  Cool Saroja!

‘Love shall be like the parents love.  If love is blind life become blind. Parents love is not for something, it is a natural one and they are  ready to sacrifice everything, including their lives for their children.

Biochemistry of Love

Neurological studies prove the role of chemicals, that are present in the brain and might be involved when people experience love. These chemicals include: nerve growth factor (Emanuele et al.,2006) testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, nor-epinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, and vasopressin (Zeki, 2007).

Adequate brain levels of testosterone seem important for both human male and female sexual behaviour Dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are more commonly found during the attraction phase of a relationship [citation needed].

Oxytocin and vasopressin seemed to be more closely linked to long term bond-ing and relationships characterized by strong attachments.

*Love is like a fire, do not play with that*  

References

Emanuele E, Politi P, Bianchi M, Minoretti P, Bertona M, Geroldi D (2006). “Raised plasma nerve growth factor levels associated with early-stage romantic love”. Psychoneuroendocrinology Vol. 31(3), PP.288– 94. doi:10.1016/j.psyneuen.2005.09.002. PMID 16289361.

Zeki S.  in FEBS Lett. (2007), The neurobiology of love”, Vol. 581, PP. 2575-2579. PMID 17531984.