Monday, March 25, 2019

Family


Posted by: Life Skills Sankar
Source: behappy.org.in

Parents sacrifice their lives for children and transferring their assets too. Wife and husband share so many things. Children feel a lot about their parents. Grand parents teach good things.

Today’s  youth feels that parents are their property, we can use their lives till the end. The family is not a place for discussing one’s rights and responsibilities; it is a place for sharing responsibilities and enjoying the rights.



Some of the Parent’s Feelings

          •    Children are adamant
          •    Disturbing with bad habits
          •    Wasting time with TV/Internet/Cell/games/friends
          •    Demanding money without understanding
          •    Neglecting studies
          •    Not bothering about the future
          •    Involves in love affairs and disturbing family
          •    Do not help in family matters

Children Feelings

          •    Always control, No freedom
          •    Daily tell same suggestions
          •    Not giving enough money
          •    Talk only about marks/morals/responsibilities
          •    Ask us to away from the bad habits, but they can’t
          •    No freedom, even our marriage
          •    Always feel tension about our future and put us in tension

Read this story


Once upon a time there was a famous poet Bharavi. His poems attracted the people very much and they praised him a lot. Whenever, somebody praised his son, father commented, Bharavi, a child in poetry, need not to praise so much.

Bharavi hurt; it happened again and again. Bharavi felt that,” father was envious about my talent”, so, to get fame father must be killed.

Bharavi prepared a plan in the midnight to murder his father. He had selected the kitchen, where the father took food in the morning and climbed to arrack with a big stone. He would like to throw the stone on his father’s head.

Father came for food


Ready, one… two… mother started a conversation with the father, Bharavi listening.


Mother                 :         Bharavi is unhappy’
Father                  :         What happened! He is a good poet, no problem with Money, what happened,
                                           asked out of anxiety.
Mother                 :         You only the cause.
Father                  :         me!?!
Mother                :         Yes, you were always passing negative comments, while
                                            some body praising our son
Father                  :         Laughed loudly,’ Don’t be silly’. Whenever, I used such
                                             words, the people will say, “no, no, Bharavi was a great
                                       poet.” If we also praise, people laugh at us.
Mother                 :         I didn’t think like that….

A big sound….father afraid of and started to run, but somebody pulling his leg look down, Bharavi caught his leg; there was a big stone adjacent.

Father                   :         What all this!
Bharavi                 :         Father you were lucky, if mother didn’t start  conversation, you might have
                                         killed.
Father                   :         what!?!
Bharavi                 :         Yes father, I misunderstood you, give me a punishment.

Think, whether you understand your parents properly!



 Parent’s responsibilities                                       Children’s responsibilities


Shall give good education                                 Shall Read well

Shall provide food, clothing, shelter                 Shall look parents in old age

Shall look after health                                       Shall follow Parent’s suggestions

Shall maintain a peaceful home                        Shall not create the problem environment                 Shall teach good habits                                     Shall learn good habits

Shall share love & affection                              Shall share love and affection

Shall give money                                               Shall not waste money

Wife-Husband Quarrels

Disputes are common in families. If there is no adjustment between wife and husband, it becomes a battleground. Petty things are cause for many quarrels.

Some of the feelings


Wife feelings                                                                  Husband feelings

Dominating                                                                     Dominating

No value for my word                                                     No value for my word

Admonishing my parents                                                 Admonishing my parents

No freedom in money matters                                         Waste money

Growing distance after having children                           Strained with duty

Do not ask while purchasing something                           Always not possible

No role for me in children matters                                    Just feeling


Other causes for quarrels

Bad habits

Illegal contacts

Health problems

Financial matters

Sex problems


Family is just like a flower, if parts separated, lose its Life and beauty